PeJay
10-24-2004, 06:26 PM
My name is PeJay. I found the freelancemom.com forums searching the internet for work I can do at home. My life has changed dramatically in past couple of years. A little over a year ago my boyfriend and I decided to live together. I knew my life would change then, not only because he would be there, but I also knew his kids would be with us on all of our days off. I don’t have children of my own, but I like kids, so it seemed like a great new adventure. Once he was settled in and I was getting used to our new arrangements, the kid’s mom called and announced, she would be moving out of state and the kids would need to stay with us full time. I don’t know how she could do it, but she did... And my life has never been the same. Not in a negative way, but it is a lot more challenging then my life before the kids. Suddenly everything I do, no matter how big or small, effects or influences these kids in one way or another. My hours at work, the clothes I wear, the words that come out of my mouth, My hairstyle, my health, EVERYTHING. Rather quickly I realized, I am living for these kids. My life has become about them and their health and happiness. It’s flattering, but sometimes scary, because I am only human, and I constantly worry about making parenting mistakes. At this point in my situation, I am the only female role model in their lives. Their mother is not only gone, but she doesn’t even call anymore. It’s really sad, because these kids believe in their mom, and think the world of her... But she’s gone... It leaves allot pressure on me.
Currently I work at a factory. It was a perfect job for me before. I just go to work and do my job, clock out, and not even have to think about my job again, until it was time to go back in to work. Well, now, my job is a problem. I work a 12 hour shift, on nights. My hours are 6:00pm to 6:00am. The kids have to stay with a sitter over night 3 or 4 nights a week. We get off work, and rush to the sitters and get home, get our daughter ready for school as fast as we can, get her on the bus, and by this time our 3 year old son is ready to start his day, and we haven’t even slept yet. At this point we have to decided who’s sleepiest, and start sleeping in shifts. It makes for horribly grumpy adults, and it’s not working out for me at all. Not to mention, an over night sitter, who doesn’t even feed them dinner or breakfast, is costing us 600.00 a month. That’s money we truly need here at home. That’s what has brought me to the forums. I need to make money, but finding a job that I go to daily isn’t going to help us much. My boyfriend, Ernel, will still be working nights and sitting up with his son instead of getting a reasonable amount of sleep. He can’t find a better job right now because we want to be sure we have good health insurance for the kids. We can’t afford to lose that at this point. So... We’re really kind of stuck in a situation as far as employment is concerned. I’m trying to research and explore different types of work at home opportunities. I’m finding so much of it to be scams. It’s completely unreasonable.
My hope is to find good people and good advice that can keep me working, but along side raising our kids and providing a healthy, loving home environment. The idea sounds to good to be true, but I don’t want to give up on the idea. These kids have had a rough way to go, and I just want them to feel loved, and for their lives to feel settled and secure. Just simply to have a parent figure who can stop everything they are doing and tend to their needs, no matter when they are needed. I want to be that for them, and unlike their mother, I want to be sure they know they can count on me, and I’m going to be there no matter what. And nothing, not even my job, comes before them. They deserve that... So, please... Your advice, or even just words of encouragement are welcome and greatly appreciated.
That's my story...Thanks, and I look forward to meeting some of you.
-Pejay
Currently I work at a factory. It was a perfect job for me before. I just go to work and do my job, clock out, and not even have to think about my job again, until it was time to go back in to work. Well, now, my job is a problem. I work a 12 hour shift, on nights. My hours are 6:00pm to 6:00am. The kids have to stay with a sitter over night 3 or 4 nights a week. We get off work, and rush to the sitters and get home, get our daughter ready for school as fast as we can, get her on the bus, and by this time our 3 year old son is ready to start his day, and we haven’t even slept yet. At this point we have to decided who’s sleepiest, and start sleeping in shifts. It makes for horribly grumpy adults, and it’s not working out for me at all. Not to mention, an over night sitter, who doesn’t even feed them dinner or breakfast, is costing us 600.00 a month. That’s money we truly need here at home. That’s what has brought me to the forums. I need to make money, but finding a job that I go to daily isn’t going to help us much. My boyfriend, Ernel, will still be working nights and sitting up with his son instead of getting a reasonable amount of sleep. He can’t find a better job right now because we want to be sure we have good health insurance for the kids. We can’t afford to lose that at this point. So... We’re really kind of stuck in a situation as far as employment is concerned. I’m trying to research and explore different types of work at home opportunities. I’m finding so much of it to be scams. It’s completely unreasonable.
My hope is to find good people and good advice that can keep me working, but along side raising our kids and providing a healthy, loving home environment. The idea sounds to good to be true, but I don’t want to give up on the idea. These kids have had a rough way to go, and I just want them to feel loved, and for their lives to feel settled and secure. Just simply to have a parent figure who can stop everything they are doing and tend to their needs, no matter when they are needed. I want to be that for them, and unlike their mother, I want to be sure they know they can count on me, and I’m going to be there no matter what. And nothing, not even my job, comes before them. They deserve that... So, please... Your advice, or even just words of encouragement are welcome and greatly appreciated.
That's my story...Thanks, and I look forward to meeting some of you.
-Pejay