My 4 year old just started Kindergarten

[ericamom]

Hello everyone I need some advice my Four year old just started Kindergarten and she has been having some problems with her having peepee accidents on her self she comes home all wet and smelling like pee I spoke to her teacher and she told me she didn't notice which I could believe because you can see it. It got me upset because the teacher said she will remind her to go to the bathroom. But yesterday she came home wet again and hysterically crying not to mention she had a really bad rash inbetween her legs and a bruise on her back because she fell off the slide. Im really worried about my baby because she is very quiet and shy and sensitive and I don't know what is going on in school. Today she didn't want to go to school because she was scared. And she was telling me that the teacher scream at her for having an accident on herself but never did the teacher call me to let me know what happen. I need some advise because I just want to hurt this teacher but I can't go there with that kind of mentality

[Audrey]

Did she attend preschool? Is she ready for kindergarten? Maybe take her out and try again next year when she's a year older? I suggest this because I hate to see a child so upset about school at such a young age. When you put her back in next year request a different teacher. Meet with the principal and make a plan.

[ericamom]

No Audrey she didn't attend preschool because it was full and she wasn't ready maybe your right maybe she isn't ready for kindergarten yet and I should just try next year. Yeah thats what Iam going to do because I hate to see my baby so upset as well it hurts me so much

[Audrey]

Erica,

Usually the teachers are great about catching a "problem". A child not ready is indeed a problem. It's so frustrating to see your child so miserable and the teacher not even contacting you to discuss it.

As a parent you have every right to take her out. I really would see if there is a local preschool she can attend for this school year and then try kindergarten again next year.

[ericamom]

Yeah I know I think I do have to take her out of school and try again next year its still pretty early in the year so I can do it. Thanks so much Audrey for your advise

[Audrey]

Erica,

Glad my thoughts were able to help you.

[lottomom]

If you decide to change your mind and leave her in school or if your having this problem next year, i suggest get her some underwear-like training pants and if you look on ebay, you'll find something called a "potty watch". The child wears it and you can preset the time for 15, 30, 60 and 90 minutes, the alarm is a little tune to let the child (and teacher) know that it is time for her to go to the bathroom.

Good Luck!

[ericamom]

Thank you so much lottomom that sounds like a really cool idea with the watch thing to remind her about the potty and i started buying her the traing pants again that look like underwears so she wont feel uncomfortable in class and so far she is doing better with the staying dry. She comes home now dry and I give her a little insentive prize so she can keep up the good work. And now even her teacher is more involved with potty time so this helps me alot. I think we are getting better at it and I wont have to take her out of class cause she really likes school.

[busybee]

thats great to hear the progress erica. you also have to remember that this can be a daunting time for the little ones with so many new things going on, they can simply forget what else they have to do like go to the bathroom. By the sounds of things the problem is starting to ease off which is great, if shés still unhappy then you might need to take her out. But at this stage it sounds like she's starting to manage everything that's going on around her.. Great to hear! Nothing worse than seeing your little ones upset!

Amanda

[ericamom]

Amanda,

It is so true what you said I was able to go to my daughters class and see what they are learning and they do alot in the day so I can see how easy it would be for my little one to forget to go potty. But it was so nice to see how caring the teacher is with them and how she makes school fun for the little ones I hope the progress continues with my little one. Yeah that was killing me everyday seeing my daughter coming home sad because she had an accident and she was scared she was going to get introuble.

[Audrey]

Erica,

Glad to read things are improving. I'm such a mom and was hurting for this little girl who was hurting. I'm so happy to read that she's doing better and you've found a solution.

[ericamom]

Audrey,
thank you it was tuff but now we are doing good and she is improving day by day lets see what happens now. Thank you so much for your concern and for all your advise:t10:

[busybee]

glad we could help! :)

Amanda

[Lori]

4 is young for Kindergarten... My son is about to turn 6 and started K this year. He had an accident himself. They have to get used to the rhythm of the day and remember to take the time to go to the bathroom. Everything is so new to them, I think it's more than they can handle at first.

I'm so glad that she's doing better and likes school! Yay! :sun:

[ericamom]

Updates Updates on my baby she is doing great in school we haven't had anymore accidents and things are looking good for her. She loves interacting with the other children and learning it is so great to see her doing so well. Everyone was right she just needed to adjust to the swing of things but she is doing great.

[Audrey]

Erica,

That is AWESOME!!!!!

[busybee]

that's really good to hear! and I'm sure that's a load off your chest!

Amanda