cksmith
07-03-2008, 06:45 PM
I've had the biggest down fall in my life and it started February 2007. I just found out that I was pregnant again. Not that it was a bad thing. But just the fact that my husband and I recently got out of the military. Well we headed up to Connecticut to stay with his parents until we were able to get back on our feet. That was the biggest mistake of our lives. I've never met anyone that was so money hungry. While we were staying there we had stayed in one of there rooms that had all their stuff in the closet their furniture all in the room. That wasn't the bad part of it yet. Well when we got there after I started working part time doing paper runs. We had discussed the issue of money. Ok that was fine. His mom said that as long as we could help with money it would be appreciated. You know 25 here 25 there. Considering the fact that I wasn't really working to support anything. Well at that time it was just my husband. my daughter and I. A short while later my husband got a fulltime job working security. That didn't pay well either. He made 9 something an hour. Well when he started working His parents started asking for 400. Ok I was still fine with that. The next thing I noticed was that every month the rent was going up. And don't forget that he was only bringing in 600 every two week. It went up to 800. Our past bills were being neglected. Collectors were calling like crazy. When we would talk to them about it. All his mom would say is that they have bills too. Ok I understand that but the little money that we are giving you is basically paying for all your bills. Then my husband mentioned about his brother paying 400 a month and why are we paying double that for one room. The answer I heard blew my top of. BECAUSE THERE WAS MORE OF US...I lost so much respect for them. My mom did whatever she could do to help us out with our situation living with his parents. My mom gave us 200 a month to get food for ourselves and Diapers and wipes for my daughter. Well anyways back to my night mare pare. I never knew a family so screwed up as them. His father started harassing me. Then one day while his wife was in the bathroom upstairs he had ***ually assualted me. I couldn't believe it. From them on I started locking myself in the room. A couple months later my husband and I told his mom. That was like talking to a wall. His parents would complain about me not coming down an socializing. That was his mom and dad. You would think that the mother understood my way of acting. No she didn't. THis december that had past we finally got enough money to move out. Well we weren't going to move out till the middle of the month due to the apartment not being ready. We had told his parents that and they still wanted the whole months rent. I went to the area where they were having their conversation and started opening my mouth. Oh I never. His mom shut me up and said this is between me and my son. First of all lack of grammer. Second of all whatever is to do with my husband concerns me. Then she would talk about me not coming downstairs. I didn't care about that. All I cared about was the fact that I was just disrespected. After all that time I heald my tongue to anything that was being said. And gave her the respect by telling her about her husband. I then turned and said I lost respect for both of them (his parents). His dad then said oh yeah you lost respect for us then you can get out. When he said that I was like "Yeah I lost respect for you. You touched me. You were trying to be secretive and write all the notes asking me if I wanted to make money." He turned to his wife and had no shame and said "your going to believe her?" I said why not I had the proof I kept all the letters. I did keep all the letters I was showing them to my husbands mom. BUt I don't know what she was thinking just becuase I told him one day to stop and leave me alone. She thought everything was peaches and roses. She went to my journal and riped everything out of it. At first I thought it was him. No it was her. Well that night we left. Good riddince. He was still denying it to her when we left until she told him details and stuff like that. They went to church the next day. I don't know what for. Well things were good after. We were going to let his mom keep in contact with us. Until one day. We were waiting for a refund check. You know when you have to pay a security deposit. Well it went to their house and my husband was going thru the mail for it. He kept asking his mom if she recieved anything from att. She said no. So when he got back into the car I called att. They said they were going to do their protocols for it. Two hours later they call us back saying they found the check it's been cashed. Well who do you thing would do such a thing? His mom did. He called her up and mentioned it saying that it was cashed and stuff like that. Finally she admitted to it. Saying she needed the money. Well thanks for asking right. I was going to press charges but she paid us. I didn't want to have anything to do with them anymore. Plus I was hearing from my husbands girlfriend how she would trash talk me. I was done. I told my husband I can't live like this. I was on the verge of filing for divorce. He said he didn't want to lose me and why would I do such a thing. His family was driving me insane. My bloodpressure was high becuase of them. If leaving him was what I had to do to put my life back to normal it was what I was going to do. He didn't understand that. He now doesn't talk to them. His father he doesn't talk to because he violated me. His mother becuase she if a petty thief. They dont' thing of anyone but themselves. They act like everything is ok and normal. They try to contact us. We changed our number. Just recently she emailed him asking how we are all doing. She put at the end of her letter :love you from a mom with a broken heart". And put a sad looking picture of her on the email. What was that suppose to do soften us up to let her back into our lives. Someone please tell me am I wrong for not wanting her apart of our lives and not wanting our kids to know who they are. I just don't want my kids corrupted by them.